My baby essentials II

We've talked about the essentials for clothing and bedding, but there are other stuff that are essential for a new one. Let's try to do now a list for toys, furniture and general stuff:

Furniture (very simple essentials):

• A moses or mini-crib:I recommend the moses as you can move it around the house the first three months
• A cot with 2 adjustable heights: Mine is convertible in a bed for the future, just trying to save some money :) 
• A changing table: Simple, stable and if it has drawers or shelves under it, perfect for keeping the nappies, creams, etc.

The nursery was finished long after Baby arrived...

Toys (Essentials):

• A baby bouncer or baby hammock: This is a "must". Perfect for keeping the baby safe when you need to do other stuff. I even bring it to the bathroom and leave the baby there while having a shower.
• A baby gym: It is great for the baby to play during the first months. Safe and full of fun.
• A rattler: I discovered that Baby preferred the hard plastic ones than the softies, but that depends on the baby.

Feeding:

• Bottles: I recommend this even if you are breastfeeding. Because there may be situations that you won't be able to be there and you can always express some milk and use a bottle. My favourite brand is Avent. I bought the beginners kit with absolutely everything on it, and it has been the best deal ever! (Tesco has it now for £40!!!)
• Sterilizer for bottles: See above!
• Dummy: This is going to cause some controversy. But I am very pro-dummies, sorry, my husband is a dentist and he told me: "You can always remove a dummy but you cannot remove a finger". My favourite brand is MAM (I've tried all of them and Baby only wanted that one!)
• A flask: Good for "on the go" but essential at my home for preparing the night feeds. We did not even have to leave the bed!!!
• Milk Powder dispenser: I use Avent because it came with the kit but Tesco has cheap ones too. Always in conjunction with the flask for the night feeds...

So, what do you say? Do you have anything else to add?

Tips & tricks series - 1

If you have enough space, make sure there is a sofa bed or a trundle bed in the baby's nursery.
It will be a life saver during those sick nights.

Babies first words

The first words of every baby are very similar, and there's a reason for most of languages have "da-da" or "pa-pa" as the father's name :)

Our wee one said firsts "da-da", then he went to "ta-ta" almost whispering to end up with a proper "pa-pa" that was soon followed by "ma-ma". He hasn't learn the famous "no-no" but I am not sure if I'm looking forward that moment or I prefer to delay it as much as possible :P

Lesson 2: Don't stop being yourself

Although having a child is the most beautiful thing in the world (sounds like a cliche, but it is true), sometime it can be too overwhelming, tiring or even absorbent. Most books about babies will recommend you to try to keep calm (we will talk about this on another lesson), but my recommendation will be to be yourself.

This is not as easy as it sounds, having a newborn is like a vortex, you end up being as dependent of the baby as she is of you. If you don't ask for help or for some time for yourself, you will probably end up feeling bad and not knowing the reason, and this is the start of some PND.

Two weeks after the baby was born, it felt pretty difficult to leave the house, my family had already gone back home, my husband was back to work and I had to face all the feeds, nappies and sleeping routines by myself. That made the simple job of getting ready both of us and going for a walk as as tremendous effort.

Let's get out of here!!!

Fortunately for me, I had met during my ante-natal classes a group of mums with babies born very closely and my GP has a "First Time Mums" group that the midwives really encourage you to attend, I felt really good after each meeting and soon it became a "must" every Monday and Friday to see this lovely people and share my feeling and adventures. Furthermore, the baby was sleeping or feeding better after each meeting, and that was mainly because I was feeling better.
I was getting ideas of what to do and lots of great advice from all the mummies. We were sharing tips, recommendations for baby stuff, new family issues (grandparents, parents-in-law, husbands...), recipes and most importantly a great friendship that still lasts!

My week soon had a routine that went more or less like this:

• Monday morning: First time mums group
• Tuesday morning: Caterpillar music for babies & Post-natal exercise classes for mums (allowing babies inside)
• Wednesdays: Relaxing at home
• Thursdays: City centre shopping and lunch with colleagues
• Fridays: Brunch at the family friendly pub with some of the mums.

This kept going for almost 7 months and then it was time to go back to work. It looks pretty busy, but believe me I still had the afternoons for long naps, and still had time for preparing dinner, doing the housework and having normal conversations with my husband or friends. I think the key was to keep the TV off during the day!!

Not us, but close enough ;)

By the 6th month, my first time mums group was closed to most of us, and I felt again that pain for leaving my home and being something else apart from a mum. My husband and I soon realized of what was the problem and we started planning for my return to work.
Nowadays, I still meet most of the mums for walks, swimming plans or simply dinner or coffee during the weekends or Mondays off.

So, this is my second lesson: Don't stop being yourself. Get out of home, do things that you liked before having the baby, meet new people and talk about everything. And always remember that you are something else apart of being a mum.

My baby essential I (the clothes)

Some of my best friends are expecting a new baby, and I did this list for them months ago. I've been changing it based on my experience, but now it's pretty finished.

So, in sizes (0-3 months) this is what I recommend to get before the baby is here:

• 4-6 sleep-suits (I got most of them from Primark and Tesco, good quality and great price)
• 6-8 t-shirts/vests (best ones are the ones from H&M that zip on the front and the bottom, so you don't need to put baby's head through them) 
• 3-4 trousers (best ones are Zara crawling trousers) 
• 4-6 pairs of socks (you get them on size 1-6 months and you will use them a lot, my recommendation is Next, they are perfect!) 
• 2-3 dungarees/trousers/jeans for smart dressing and going out 
• 2-3 cardigans/jackets for going out. 
• 1 all in one for going out (preferably plastic or fake fur outside to make it extra warm, Tesco has fantastic ones) 
• 2-3 bibs (big and small ones for feeding, try to get some of them super absorbent) 
• 1-2 hats & mittens
• 1-2 Grobag (I quite like Tesco's version, but you find them everywhere) or fleece onesie (Primark has gorgeous ones)

For the bedding, here is my list:

• 3 fitted sheets (I didn't use the flat sheets, as the baby was sleeping with the Grobag or under the blanket directly)
• 5-6 blankets (Different sizes and fabrics: wool, fur, cotton, etc. and not too expensive so you don't feel bad when they get stained or you use them for the floor)
• 6 muslims (I used them for under his head when he is sleeping, so I don't have to wash the sheets everyday, and in an emergency they can be used for cleaning the baby's puke)
• 4 face towels (This is my "must", I used them for protecting us from the burps, for cleaning his face during the feeds or when he has puked something. They need to be super absorbent and in clear colors so they don't look dirty of milk too much)

This is how the baby's wardrobe looked three months before his arrival...

Lesson 1: Sleep, baby, sleep

Tonight has been the first night in 7 months that the baby has slept over 9 hours uninterrupted.
Yes, I am a new woman.
Yes, I am not sure if it would be repeated in the future.
Yes, I am aware of how pathetic my life looks just because I am celebrating a night of 8 hours sleep.

Being a working mum makes your life not easy, but having a sleepless baby makes your life a nightmare. And I can talk from experience.

My baby and I sleeping...

When the baby was born I expected to be awake every 3 hours for his feeds, then we moved into the bottle and we were managing 4-5 hours of sleep and they promised that when the solids will be introduced it will be 8-10 hours of sleep. That's not exactly true, but it does get better.

One of my biggest stresses during the last 7 months was that the baby was not sleeping as it should. There are lots of parents that tell you how great their babies sleep, that from the second week they have been sleeping from 8 to 8 and so an so.
Well, first of all, they must be very lucky, and secondly I think they are little liars. If you keep the conversation going you will easily notice that not ALL the nights they sleep like that, or that if there is no need for a feed means that they haven't woken up, etc. Or if their children were babies a long time ago, they probably don't remember the bad nights (I don't remember those every 2 hours feed nights and it is just 6 months ago!!!)

The baby (2 months old) sleeping after a bottle.

So, my first lesson for how to be a cool mum is: Do not get stressed about the sleeping routine. Sooner or later it will get better and you will forget all about it. Meanwhile, sleep while you can!

I am definitely not a cool mum

There, I've said it, I am not a cool mum. How could I be? I've just started in this position, well, 7 months ago, and let me tell you something, it's damn difficult.

Two weeks ago, I thought I had everything under control, I was back at work, the baby at the nursery and we were all living in a fairy tale.

This is how a cool mum looks, by the way

And then catastrophe came: The baby had his first cold!!!

Oh, dear, the sleepless nights, the work-related traveling and the first-time-mum-stress (yes, there is a new type of stress) are not a good combination... Poor hubby!!!

Ahhhh!

And that's exactly when I knew I am not a cool mum and I need to start learning how to be one. Let's keep this blog as the textbook for the training course.